Negative people tend to be very insensitive and tactless when making comments. It is easy for them to
say big or harsh words that can affect your feelings as well as the others. They seem to care about
themselves only; for as long as they are able to say what they want to say, they are okay with it. This
is because they have no other to turn to and express their feelings and get support or empathy from.
And, your role here is to lend a helping hand by turning the comments objective instead of subjective.
So when he comments about something, listen and then explain your side in an objective way,
explaining both the negative and positive side of the story. It is even better that you acknowledge and
empathize with him first. You let him know that you got his point and that you are willing to make the
topic clear for the benefit of both of you.
When you actually acknowledge what he feels like saying, “Yes, I really do understand how you feel
because I have also experienced that but here’s what we have to consider too.” So you can start the
conversation just like that. This technique will lessen his resistance level and therefore, become
receptive to what you have to say. You will get his trust and confidence on you.
At the end of you statement, make sure to offer an alternative solution like, “You know? It might be a
good idea if we tell our boss about that.” Whether he says yes or no, the important thing is he can feel
that you care and that you want to provide a solution to his concern. So he can feel assured of your
presence all the time.
The sanguine people are actually like that. They are very objective when they talk. They like to know
all sides of a story. As much as possible they avoid to give a judging comment when they are not
certain of the facts behind. So you see them asking questions or doing research themselves until they
are satisfied. They do not actually like to dwell on the bad side of things. Instead, they go through the
positive side of it and give hope. And, this is what you will use to transform that person.
Never argue.
His negativity can be at the highest level at times that you’ll find it very hard to deal with. You feel a
bit of anger, seemingly going to explode. But calm down. Remember that he needs help. He needs
your positive vibe. The key here is to listen to what he says. Let him finish until he’s able to express
all that’s on his mind and heart. Only after then you speak and remember not to argue. Empathize or be
objective. If he still does not understand, he will soon as you go on with the other ways here on how
to deal with negative people. Just remember the things that he is not open about and when the day
comes that he more open to you, there you will give all the appropriate advice.
Open lighter topics to talk to.
These people loves complaining, talking about their problems, and more, which can eventually make
the conversation energy-draining. They seem to hate talking about happy ideas or events. They are just
very critical about almost everything around them that they fail to see the good of something. If you
come across with this kind of person, you will feel bad too, especially if you continue to talk to him
without knowing the proper way to react and resist the negative vibe.
When they start talking about their problems, empathize and then open a lighter topic. These lighter
topics pertain to the areas where he is positive about or areas in life that he likes to explore or has a
deep fascination with. For instance, you can talk about an upcoming movie if he is a movie fanatic.
You can talk about the latest fashion trend about men if he loves the fashion industry. You can talk
about his hobbies, news, daily happenings and more. This way you can neutralize the mood of the
conversation and make him smile.
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